People
have always seeked happiness in hopes to end suffering. They
complicate this by trying to attain ideals or concepts that allow
them a sense of identity. Making choices based on what they believe
the out come will be. Setting expectations like these causes growth
or great harm in ones idea of "happiness". "To be
happy, I must do well in school.”; Achieving greatness in the eyes
of others. “To be happy, I must succeed in my career creating vast
wealth that I can not share.” “To be happy I must find myself."
These concepts are all flawed, they set an expectation of happiness
itself. Happiness is a state of being it is something that is always
there.
We
complicate this by setting an expectation that "when I am not
happy, I am therefore sad." No, this not true either; you are
always sad, you are always happy. One asks them selves over and over
“what can I do to make me happy again?” “Why can't I just
always be happy?” “How do I become happy or happy all the time?”
It is simple, people rationalize by telling themselves, "Easier
said then done!", setting the expectation again for suffering
not realizing you are already suffering and already happy! What makes
this so hard is we have made an idea of a state of being an ideal.
That complicates the will to be happy.
How
does one get out of bed in the morning and go through the day? You
just do, as if one foot in front of the other it is as simple as
walking! Happiness and suffering are like getting out of bed, you
still have to face them, still have to make choices to survive the
next day. So therefor you can't obtain something you already have! It
takes remembering "I am happy", to be happy! When you
remember that you are sad you also remember to feel sad, but nobody
asks, "how do I suffer?" because they remember they are
sad. Happiness is also just that simple.
Realize
you are always both chose which one you feel like being in and be it.
If its a sad day suffer, take time to suffer it is there for a reason
be happy about your suffering. It may seem crazy to appreciate ones
suffering, but by allowing yourself to explore the suffering and
acknowledge your pain it can allow a much greater sense and
understanding to one's own happiness. As if to be your own therapist,
the you allow yourself to remember your suffering while understanding
that you are suffering you separate from yourself as if to see things
from a outside perspective. Which could be just the distraction that
was needed to remember the suffering was only a state of mind and a
temporary state that you allowed and reminded your self to exist in.
Happiness
and suffering, one can not exist without the other. Knowing this
allows you to move past a memory and be more in the now a present
state of being. If existing within a present state one is not able to
set expectations, allowing for one's self to simply take life's
lessons for as they are lessons not good or bad, happy or sad but
growth or stunt in growth. For life is happening now, feeling happy
and sad now is life. It can be easier to choose in the now because
the expectation of past and future are not set. When a person is in a
state of happiness while acknowledging their suffering they start
making choices that benefit support the idea of well-being from that
happiness is remembered or created to remember. Success in job
opportunity, love and friendships, family and community all come
together or become as they are one in the same, creating the same
outcome wellness. Then the question never arises of happiness because
self is aware of the two but instead of asking “Am I happy? The
person begins to ask in a sense that doesn't create a false
expectation. The question's of “what if's become taken over by “I
am...”.
The
expectation of future is obsolete. You exist here, now "I am
happy now as i do....” I feel suffering because I know/feel as I
do...” To acknowledge both is to live in a moment of ecstasy or
contentment, simply because the expectation is not set you are simply
living and that is the greatest happiness one can achieve to live
life at its most free-est form inside one's own mind. We often get
caught up in ideals and stuck in stressful moments of life or those
expectations, in those times we forget we can also forget that our
mind can enslave us and keep us trapped not always outside forces
that keep a person from existing in a free state. So how does one
achieve happiness? By realizing that one is always happy to begin
with. That the present is both happiness and suffering, reality and
dreams that decide the state of our existence. Whether you choose to
stay in the past “reality” or past “dream” or to sit within a
expectation of a “dream” or what “reality” could potentially
be is counter productive to ones achievement of happiness or “self”
growth.
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