Saturday, November 15, 2014

Happiness the Ideal of Humanity

People have always seeked happiness in hopes to end suffering. They complicate this by trying to attain ideals or concepts that allow them a sense of identity. Making choices based on what they believe the out come will be. Setting expectations like these causes growth or great harm in ones idea of "happiness". "To be happy, I must do well in school.”; Achieving greatness in the eyes of others. “To be happy, I must succeed in my career creating vast wealth that I can not share.” “To be happy I must find myself." These concepts are all flawed, they set an expectation of happiness itself. Happiness is a state of being it is something that is always there.
We complicate this by setting an expectation that "when I am not happy, I am therefore sad." No, this not true either; you are always sad, you are always happy. One asks them selves over and over “what can I do to make me happy again?” “Why can't I just always be happy?” “How do I become happy or happy all the time?” It is simple, people rationalize by telling themselves, "Easier said then done!", setting the expectation again for suffering not realizing you are already suffering and already happy! What makes this so hard is we have made an idea of a state of being an ideal. That complicates the will to be happy.
How does one get out of bed in the morning and go through the day? You just do, as if one foot in front of the other it is as simple as walking! Happiness and suffering are like getting out of bed, you still have to face them, still have to make choices to survive the next day. So therefor you can't obtain something you already have! It takes remembering "I am happy", to be happy! When you remember that you are sad you also remember to feel sad, but nobody asks, "how do I suffer?" because they remember they are sad. Happiness is also just that simple.
Realize you are always both chose which one you feel like being in and be it. If its a sad day suffer, take time to suffer it is there for a reason be happy about your suffering. It may seem crazy to appreciate ones suffering, but by allowing yourself to explore the suffering and acknowledge your pain it can allow a much greater sense and understanding to one's own happiness. As if to be your own therapist, the you allow yourself to remember your suffering while understanding that you are suffering you separate from yourself as if to see things from a outside perspective. Which could be just the distraction that was needed to remember the suffering was only a state of mind and a temporary state that you allowed and reminded your self to exist in.
Happiness and suffering, one can not exist without the other. Knowing this allows you to move past a memory and be more in the now a present state of being. If existing within a present state one is not able to set expectations, allowing for one's self to simply take life's lessons for as they are lessons not good or bad, happy or sad but growth or stunt in growth. For life is happening now, feeling happy and sad now is life. It can be easier to choose in the now because the expectation of past and future are not set. When a person is in a state of happiness while acknowledging their suffering they start making choices that benefit support the idea of well-being from that happiness is remembered or created to remember. Success in job opportunity, love and friendships, family and community all come together or become as they are one in the same, creating the same outcome wellness. Then the question never arises of happiness because self is aware of the two but instead of asking “Am I happy? The person begins to ask in a sense that doesn't create a false expectation. The question's of “what if's become taken over by “I am...”.

The expectation of future is obsolete. You exist here, now "I am happy now as i do....” I feel suffering because I know/feel as I do...” To acknowledge both is to live in a moment of ecstasy or contentment, simply because the expectation is not set you are simply living and that is the greatest happiness one can achieve to live life at its most free-est form inside one's own mind. We often get caught up in ideals and stuck in stressful moments of life or those expectations, in those times we forget we can also forget that our mind can enslave us and keep us trapped not always outside forces that keep a person from existing in a free state. So how does one achieve happiness? By realizing that one is always happy to begin with. That the present is both happiness and suffering, reality and dreams that decide the state of our existence. Whether you choose to stay in the past “reality” or past “dream” or to sit within a expectation of a “dream” or what “reality” could potentially be is counter productive to ones achievement of happiness or “self” growth.

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